Why do i feel so ugly 5 years after cancer?

I was watching a doentary about cancer, and it really must be difficult to deal with, at least concerning intimacy with your husband. It seems like without having a full set of , the woman feels less feminine and will only think her husband is feeling sorry for her if he tries to get intimate. I really don't have any answers. I guess just try to be a little more spontaneous and romantic with him and see what happens.